HOW TO SAY NO

By Saying YES to What Matters Most

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-- For Women Only --

                                                                                           Photo by Kathrin Bateman

Saturday

January 9th

9:00 am to 6:00 pm

34 Whitman Street

Stow, MA 01775

 

 

“This workshop was transformational, both personally and professionally. Having bounced between accommodation and putting up walls, I learned something different. I learned how to say Yes to myself and the relationship, while finding a clearly defined and negotiated No that feels flexible, loving and connected.”
—Kathleen McGarry
Associate Director of Major Gifts
Smith College

 

 

"...fantastic. The holistic approach helped me to see how saying No starts in the body.  The practice helped me to learn to say No with conviction in a calm, assertive manner."
—David K.

Do you ever say Yes to keep the peace?

     Do you often feel overwhelmed?

         Do you want to say No with confidence?

 

Our culture tells women to avoid conflict and keep the relationship primary.

Women's focus on nurturing has served our culture. Unfortunately, they often pay

a price for it. We believe women can honor the relationship and take care of themselves.

 

Come learn a simple formula to

  • Find the inner power for your No
  • Deliver a confident No and stick to it
  • Stay in relationship when saying No

 

At this workshop, you will

  • Learn each of the three parts of the formula
  • Practice the formula on real-life situations
  • Receive feedback and refine your delivery

 

You will leave with tools to:
  • Manage your default response to requests and demands
  • Uncover and act from your deepest Yes
  • Embrace differences while promoting your interests
  • Foster authentic relationship while staying true to yourself

 

In this workshop we will explore the particular pressures women feel when saying No

and adapt the model to those gender-specific concerns. To allow participants to do

their deepest work, the size of the workshop is limited to sixteen.

 

In this workshop, you will also learn about The Triple-A Trap:

Accommodate:
Saying Yes when we want to say No.
Attack: 
Say No in ways that alienate the other person.
Avoid: 
Doing nothing and hoping the problem will go away.

 

 

 

And a way out of this Trap using a simple three-step process:

Uncover Your Yes: 
Connect to your core values.
Empower Your No: 
Develop a backup plan.
Propose a Yes: 

Show respect and propose a positive outcome.

   

"It has always been hard for me to say No without feeling guilty. Now I can say No and feel joyful about really listening to myself and saying Yes to what I am passionate about."

—Boysen Hodgson, Center Director,
ManKind Project New England

 

Cost: $159 if mailed by 12/31 $199 after 12/31

non-refundable after 1/5

To Register: Send check payable to Guthrie Sayen to

27 Rundelane

Bloomfield, CT 06002

More Info: Guthrie Sayen

860-461-1253

gs@guthriesayen.com

Guthrie Sayen, Ph.D., a former university professor, is a life

coach certified by The Coaches Training Institute and the

International Coach Federation. He creates and leads workshops

for the ManKind Project and the general public. Learning to set

healthy boundaries by saying No effectively has been critical to

Guthrie’s journey of transformation.

 

 

Joseph DiCenso is a counselor, coach and leadership consultant

with Gilburg Leadership Institute. For over 20 years he has developed

and led workshops across the US and in Canada and Mexico. Certified

in Shadow Work® and breathwork, Joseph is known for his transparency,

deep listening and mastery in the art of facilitation.

 

 

  Note: This workshop is based on The Power of a Positive No by William Ury of Harvard University.

  Dr. Ury is pleased that we are disseminating his ideas. We, however, are not affiliated with him,

  nor do we represent him.

"For me, the most outstanding aspect of this workshop was the presentation, itself. 

Joseph and Guthrie presented with such a perfect balance and synergy between them

that it was as if they were one person.  I also found the content extremely useful

and easy to implement in my life as soon as I got home. I enthusiastically recommend

this workshop to anyone. I have found the content applicable to all aspects of my life."

—Mara Castello, Certified Empowerment Coach